Macchi_the_Slime

Fun fact! If you’ve ever been involuntarily committed to like a psychiatric hospital you’re barred by Federal law from owning firearms! Some kinds of emergency and temporary holds are okay, but yeah because my wife had technically gotten involuntarily committed years ago before we met because she couldn’t make it to the hospital safely for it to be voluntary she can’t have them at all and it’s unclear if I’d be able to with my own history of mental health issues

Oh they absolutely are. No my problem is that I’m nonbinary and with my particular flavor I don’t really want to be gendered as either. But with my build I feel like the only ways I really have a chance of being gendered are Bear Dad, Drag artist, and maybe a tall Soccer Mom depending on how well a hypothetical transition might go. None of those are bad, just as much as I don’t identify with being male the same goes for fully being seen as female too.

So I figure at least for now if I’m gonna be uncomfortable I’ll take the devil I know, then I’ll affirm my identity in other ways that make me happy.

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Nah I only really play as girls to balance out getting seen as a “guy” so much IRL. Neither the “girl” build nor the “guy” build really have the kind of gameplay I’m looking for. What I really wanted to play as is something that makes people wonder which one I am. But when the random rolls in the character creator spit you out growing to 6’2" with a build like a fridge in a fursuit that build ain’t something you can really respec into. So I’m stuck with “Giant Dad” basically.

So you admit you’ve been twisting words this entire time in a desperate attempt to be right? Fuck all the way off you miserable little gremlin. Fuck out of here trying to say oh now I’m arguing your side you fucking clown.

Ah yes, because that is the takeaway from “defending the right of enbies to present how they want to present,” and “female/woman lite” has totally never been used to erase and other any nonbinary person who isn’t a thin white androgynous AFAB person. Oh that’s not nonbinary, they’re too masculine/feminine. That’s a gay man, that’s a trans woman in denial, that’s <insert anything but nonbinary here>.

YES YOU COLOSSAL FUCKING CLOWN! I’m defending the right of enbies to present how they want to fucking present! I don’t care if they look like a damn power lifter, a genderless Fae being, or a goddamned Victoria’s Secret model, the only “requirement” to be nonbinary is to IDENTIFY AS NONBINARY!!

Edit: To elaborate for others who might come later “Female-lite” is a reductive term that means that nonbinary is essentially just “person that I can perceive as woman, but is trying to distance from the baggage of misogyny” while “female heavy” refers to just “presenting too much like a woman” in this case. One is an actual erasure of identity by way of saying oh you’re basically women in all but name, the other is trying to police someone’s gender presentation because it’s not androgynous enough for you.

What are you even talking about? Nonbinary people are starved for representation in general but most of what we do get is almost exclusively androgynous, almost always implied to be AFAB and often nonhuman. If any enbies are being erased it is the ones that don’t give femme-leaning androgyny, that “woman lite” that’s the only palatable way for media to represent us.

Lesson learned. Next time I see something that upsets me, I’ll be good and not say anything.

Get out of here with this “poor me” BS. You came in here spouting off implying how someone looking “too feminine” was “erasing enbies” as if it was impossible for someone to look like that and be nonbinary and when told that you were wrong by a nonbinary person you continually doubled down on it.

You literally tried asking me like if someone whose presentation aligns with their AGAB can be nonbinary like it was some kind of gotcha! What are we even doing here!?

So, to be clear, you’re saying that someone who is happy to present as their gender assigned at birth, behave like their gender assigned at birth, who doesn’t feel dysphoria, and is socialised as their gender assigned at birth can be non-binary?

And now you’re going to try to play the victim? Yeah okay buddy, you have fun with that.

You’re talking about a “female looking character” who is seemingly “presenting as their AGAB” as being nonbinary erasure. I am a real live AMAB person who is presenting as my AGAB, how does what you are saying not apply to me? Or any other nonbinary person who presents close to their AGAB?

By calling it “enby erasure” to have a feminine looking character being implied to be nonbinary you are directly implying that anyone that presents “too far” to one side or the other is not “enby enough” or in other words, invalid. How is that different from saying that we “Owe you androgyny?” Oh we don’t owe you androgyny, but if we present too far to one side or the other we get told we’re not actually nonbinary. How is that different? If you’re going to say that someone presenting too feminine is “enby erasure” how does that not equate to trying to enforce androgyny for enbies to be valid?

I’m betting that wasn’t your intent but I’m trying to get your to see the reality that you constantly doubling down on this is insane. There’s no “right way” to be nonbinary and you can look like literally anyone. Your insistence that just because this person looks very feminine or masculine that they can’t possibly be nonbinary is just plain wrong.

So now you’re assuming I don’t feel dysphoria and just do things outside of my outward gender presentation to deal with it?

I do not identify with being male. Being perceived as male gives me a lot of dysphoria. But crucially with me being built like Bigfoot, going for androgyny makes feel like “Bigfoot in Drag” and makes me feel like I’m calling more attention to the fact that I was assigned male at birth than just continuing with the male presentation. Especially when I don’t know what precisely I want out of transition.

So yes, the thing that helps my dysphoria most is keeping my identity “for me” and the people close to me. Having them treat me like “hey I know you look like a man, but I know you’re not one,” and doing things “for me” that affirm my identity. Also I find it hilarious that you’re telling A FUCKING NONBINARY PERSON that they’re not a good example of being an enby because they’re presenting as their AGAB yet in the same breath basically agreeing that we don’t owe anyone androgyny. Which is it? Am in only valid being AMAB if I’m presenting femme or androgynous? Is masc presentation only allowed for AFAB enbies? Kinda sounds like you’re saying we’re only valid if we present the “right way” for you.

I don’t care how you perceive the characters. You are basically saying “They can’t be nonbinary, they’re too feminine,” which again means you’re literally by the same logic calling people like me invalid.

Nonbinary people don’t owe you androgyny and nonbinary characters can look like literally anyone and be nonbinary. They can look androgynous, like the most femme cis woman, the manliest cis man, or any combination thereof.

I’m nonbinary, no it’s not erasure. We do not owe anyone androgyny. If you saw me on the street your first thought would be that I’m a cis man. Am I suddenly not a valid enby because I’m 6’2" built like a fridge cosplaying Bigfoot, and have zero idea what I would even want out of transition? That makes my identity less valid and somehow “erasure” in fact?

I’m nonbinary, it’s not enby erasure. It actually upsets me way more that some people seem to think this is enby erasure because idk the one saying “Abolish gender” looks feminine I guess? Because it you were to look at me on the street without context your first guess would literally be that I’m a cis man. So am I suddenly less valid of an enby because I’m 6’2" tall, built like a fridge cosplaying Bigfoot and have zero idea what I would even want out of transition?

By the logic you’re employing here decrying enby erasure you would literally commit enby erasure. We don’t owe anyone androgyny.

Cud be mooch worse.

I went dummy off of Flintstones gummies.

I imagine they probably thought of it a lot like the breath thing. You can see your breath in the cold air, but not in the warm air. So logically it happens every time, the cold air just lets us see it happen.

Realistically the fucking is optional so long as the both of you have agreed to the arrangements.

Like I’m ace and my partner and I have been married for 8 years. It’s just been an 8 year long sleepover with my best friend with added tax benefits.

They wouldn’t have even necessarily had to “release” it. Texas as I understand it has large pockets of people just refusing the MMR vaccine among others leading to outbreaks of measles, and undocumented immigrants are more likely to just not have access to healthcare to get those vaccinations themselves meaning they’re more vulnerable to it.

Measles is incredibly infectious. Like it can hang in the air for up to 2 hours, has something like a 90% infection rate if you aren’t immune. If you aren’t doing your absolute best to contain it, then it will spread if there’s people for it to spread to.

omg right? My partner and I probably wouldn’t have married either. At minimum not when we did, but we had a bit of a scare years ago with her late ex-spouse’s family possibly thinking about fighting me for custody of the oldest of anything happened to her during the initial health scare that put her on disability to begin with from the pseudotumor.

It’s a long story but the short version is that basically no court out here wanted to touch letting me adopt our oldest because they wouldn’t accept the proof that the other bio parent was deceased. So when she got put on disability and that overtook the survivor benefits we decided the best thing for us was to marry so we could guarantee a bit better that he stayed with me if anything happened to her.

I haven’t actually heard of TVP, I’ve heard of seitan though I’ve never had the chance to try it. But yeah that’s the big problem, most of the plant based proteins that I’m aware of are either very high carb or you need a large volume of them to get that protein content. Both of which don’t work with her restrictions.

I don’t have particularly high hopes for seitan given what I’ve heard about it as far as like the texture aversions in the house go. She’s in the spectrum too and most likely where there kids get it from. She actually got kind of informally diagnosed through them being diagnosed before her health started really going downhill. But I’m willing to give anything a shot, especially if there’s a chance to make the food budget stretch a bit more with all these dietary restrictions in the house with our limited income. I’ll be on the lookout for them.